Time According to a Pre-schooler

E. and my conversation as we “cuddled” in bed tonight, it went something like this:

E: But I’m getting so big now, Mama – I’m a big girl.
M: I know, honey. In a few weeks you are going to be 4! How exciting, huh?
E: And when I am 4, then I’ll be 5, and 6, and 7…
M: How about you just stay 4 for a little while?
E: But Mama, you know I was 1, and then 2, and I’ve already been 3 for a couple minutes!

How true. It feels like merely minutes. I then came out and birthday shopped online, barely able to see my laptop through my teary eyes, for my nearly 4-year old.

(psst…do you like the new header or do you prefer the old one?? I kind of needed to update the photos – although I LOVED the one of Addie, it was taken when she was like 9 months old. May be time for a change. So I thought I’d make it a little more “spring-like” while I was at it. What do you think?)

Welcome to the Sick Ward…

Come on in…stay awhile. That is, if you don’t mind getting coughed on, puked on, or whined at.

While you are here can you please figure out how you are supposed to get juice or clean up a sick child, while another sick child is feverishly plastered to your body? Putting down the child doesn’t seem to be an option, unless you can stand the piercing screams of anguish, the “why do you put me on the couch by myself for more than 20 seconds?” scream of terror.

How about just picking up all of the half-empty sippy cups and putting them into the dishwasher? Or could you throw in a load of “sick” towels while you’re at it?

What’s that?? You’re leaving so soon? But you haven’t even heard any of the complete meltdowns due to fever and exhuastion. There are some real “goodies!”  Stick around and you’ll be amazed at the amount of pure whining that can happen in a span of 2 minutes.

Ok, fine! We’ll see you later. Thanks for dropping by.

Just one thing…PLEASE take me with you!

Happy 18 months, Addikins!

Dear Jellybean –
You are 18 months old today. It amazes me how quickly you seem to be leaving your babyhood behind while plunging full force into toddlerhood, and I do mean *plunging*. You are insanely active and utterly fearless. You take my “no’s” as mere guidelines in everything from jumping on (and off) the couch to climbing the highest slide at the park.

Your favorite things to do this month include wearing anybody’s shoes. If someone leaves a shoe out..chances are you’ll find it and put it on. You are especially fond of your rainboots, or Emma’s boots. And most of the time you are running around with just a diaper or a t-shirt on. With the rainboots. It is just too much cuteness.

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You have also become an incredible “helper” to Mama. You love to use the broom, and “meme up” (clean up) your toys, and you are very fond of throwing things away. Everything. Daddy and I have to go through the trash periodically just to make sure you haven’t declared something garbage that really isn’t. Things I have found in the trash include: your baby, the remote, the dustpan (you were probably throwing the dirt in the dustpan away – so this is actually understandable!), Emma’s headband, Mommy’s cellphone – just to name a few.

You have also been very interested in the potty, so we are working on it. You are back to sleeping 12+ hours at night (Thank God for huge favors), and now that you are able to vocalize your wishes, there has been a little less screaming and a little more peace around the house, as well.

The talking is probably the biggest change, from even one month ago. I cannot even remember all of the words you know. It is definitely well, well over a hundred. You will repeat anything anybody says to you, especially Emma. You can put little couple word sentences together. And, the craziest thing, is that you get concepts…like “heavy.” If you pick something up that is just a little too big for you to lift you say “oh…heaby!” Some of my very favorite words you say include: wub you (I love you), oh no!, bess you (bless you), elcome (you’re welcome), peas (please), mahwr? (more), tankle (twinkle) and of course, Mommy! It makes my heart soar when I come home or walk into the Kids Klub at the gym, and you come running full speed screaming “Mommy!” and then throw yourself into my arms and say “Ah Mommy” with a little sigh. All I can do is think, “yes, this is what being a Mom is all about.”

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Oh, and your kisses! Daddy and I laugh so hard at your kissing technique. I may have to try to capture it on video because it is just so hard to describe. If I ask for a kiss, you stop what you are doing, become deadpan serious and just move your face straight towards my face. You don’t pucker up, but you just press your lips to mine and then you back straight away. It is almost like you are a robot! And so serious. It is just too funny.

There is just so many things you do right now that reminds me that this is absolutely my favorite age! Even with the “terrible-2” temper tantrums looming, I just love the active, curious, excitable stage you are at  –  even though, most of the time, it goes against all of my clean, orderly sensibilities.

I think the major responsiblity of a parent is to steer their children down the right path. Helping them to “figure it out” for themselves, but always being close by to pick them up and kiss away their tears. In theory, this is a brilliant plan, but it is much harder to practice. I am trying to really stop and just let you go. Just be a kid, be messy, be curious, be active. Be…you.

But each little step you take away from me, also breaks my heart a little, too.

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I am happy to follow behind you while I still can and help pick you up. Just please don’t run away too fast.
I love you,
Mommy

Randomness…

I don’t have much to say today (What?! Shocking, I know!), so I’ll be short and sweet.

Maybe I’ll put up some of our park pics – and brag a little about how amazing our weather is right now! (hee hee…who is stupid for moving to California, now?)

Here goes our Random Thursday…

In our “Hair Idol” voting it looks like Em’s bangs are going to be around a little longer…the majority seem to think she looks good with them getting longer. I agree, but I’m really kinda in Michelle’s camp. I think they make her look so old. I’m freaking out a little on the fact that she is going to be 4! In one month! Jeez. Have children and you get suddenly propelled into warp speed. Please. Slow. Down.

Part of the reason this is going to be short today is because of Em, actually. She is home with a little fever. I am sure that Denise is doing an amazing job, but I really want to be there to keep an eye on it. Em has not been sleeping well (I know, I can’t win.) and has been particularly cranky this week…I’m sure it is all related. So she needs a little TLC, I think.

Addie on the other hand has been a sleeping champ! And I cannot believe the difference in her personality. It has been a complete 180 turnaround from last week. I think I will definitely be able to find something to write about tomorrow when she turns 18 months, unlike last month. *sniff, sniff* Again. Pleaaasse. Stop growing up so fast. Please just stay little a little longer.

Okay, as promised. Some cute pics for those of you with snow still. Come visit – it is gorgeous here!
(Click the pics to see them full-size.)

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Bad Hair Day

Bad hair day times three…that is what it has been around here with the three-girl household.

I think I solved my hair problems last week when I went to the spa (thanks Debby, Jeff and Wendy!). I had a gift certificate for the most amazing massage. That didn’t help my hair, but I treated myself to a haircut while I was there and my hair seems to be behaving much better.

E. and A.’s hair, however…

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What do I do with my baby orangutan?

I love her little curls and they are so cute especially when she gets out of the bath, I don’t want to cut them off – but it is just a mangled, unmanageable mess. Seriously. Do I cut it or just let it “fly”?

Em’s has been much easier to take care of since she is fascinated with braids and how the “princesses wear their hair,” it is pretty easy to get it pulled back off of her face. But she is in need of a trim, too. And everytime I say I’ve got to get her haircut someone says how cute her bangs look pulled to the side. So, do I continue to let them grow out and tough it out through the “sweeping it out of her eyes” phase – or do you think she looks better with little girl bangs.

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It is like Hair Idol – you vote, you decide. In or out. I’ll have the results at the end of the week.

Checking In and Up

So big news on the Addie front this week.

We have pee’d in the potty again…and continue to love sitting on the potty. So I’m moving forward in the potty training. I figure if she is interested, I might as well take advantage of it.

Also, I finally just cold-turkey’d the bottles. Come to find out that was a big part of why she was getting up in the middle of the night. She and I were at Target the other night and she saw some “Do-do” cups (that is Dora to those not in the “know) and I told her that they were only “milk” cups. She was quiet for a minute and then said “milk!” So I bought them and a few others I thought we would try, and I have only offered her milk in a sippy or through a straw. The first night was a little rough when she kept pushing away the cup and insisting on “MILK!” But I just kept giving her the cups saying, “here is your milk.” And she got it. And…has been sleeping through the night 7pm-7am. If only I had known…and if only I could’ve gotten her to take a bottle the FIRST year of her life.

She also got her 18month checkup today. She is in the 60th percentile for weight and 88th for height!! She is soooo big. Our little “tiny” nickname really doesn’t fit her any more – she really is catching up to Emma.

I also asked the pediatrician about her clumsiness…she seems to be falling down. A lot. And the pediatrician said she could possibly have a little big of equilibrium imbalance due to her colds/ear problems. Or it could just be because her center of gravity is “all up here” and as she said it she motioned towards her head – but she kind of made a “big head” motion. She had just told me that Addie’s brain development is spectacular and her head is really growing…but now I think she may have just been telling me that I have a child with a very, big head!

But overall analysis…she is perfect. Which we already knew. And with the sleeping thing getting all figured out she is getting more perfect by the day night!

Best Shot (& Video) Monday

Today is a double treat! I have both a picture for Picture This‘ Best Shot Monday and a video from Emma Gracie’s dance recital this past weekend.

You all are going to think that I only take pictures of the girls in the bathtub, I don’t. However, bathtime is always at the end of the day, and they are all relaxed and looking cute. And if I haven’t taken any pics of them on that particular day, it just seems like a good time to get some shots. This week’s is of Em since I’ve done Addie the past two weeks.

I think I keep getting all hung up on getting a perfect shot for the Best Shot Monday – when really I just want to start making sure I capture as much of our everyday life as I can. In this pic I really love the colors in the shower curtain (that she is peeking out around) and that it is not a posed “smile” picture like so many are when she sees the camera…

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And the video is below. The ballerinas were all little Ariels, (the Little Mermaid). She did a terrific job. I was amazed again at how great she listened to Miss Claire and knew the dance. She is quite a bella ballerina!

(Technical note: Mommy made sure the video camera was charged…however it was at the end of the tape. Bah! So J. videoed the whole recital on his little camera. It did a pretty great job, but you can’t zoom in, so…she is the 2nd one from the end on the left, in case you can’t really see her all that well! You can also see up close pics in the flickr account.)

On the move again.

Remember how I vowed we would never move again until we were moving into a house that we were going to stay in until the girls graduated and left home?

Well…I think I have “moving amnesia” (it is similar to “baby amnesia”) and we are moving again in a month.  After spending a few weeks hunting for houses, we realized this isn’t the time to buy one. And since we still have our “dog dilemma” next door and Emma fastly approaching needing somewhere to go to school next year, I have been searching for a place to lease. I’ll admit it has been kind of half-heartedly because I really do love the place we live now, and really most everything that I have found doesn’t even begin to compare.

But…our great real estate lady’s best friend’s family (got all that?) has to move and so she arranged for us to go see the house yesterday and it is perfect!  Ann (our real estate lady) then worked her magic and not only got the place for us (since there were other people wanting to rent it), she negotiated it for $500 less a month than they were asking AND got us a 6-month lease and then month-to-month!  It really is perfect all around. I’m so excited.

It is a spanish-style house, which I always thought I was not very fond of, but I have definitely changed my mind. It is really beautiful inside, and it might just be because we are in a 2-bedroom place now, but man…this house seems HUGE! It has 4 bedrooms, 3 baths…which means the girlies will have their own room again and the other bedroom is conveniently located off of the foyer, living room, and kitchen – so it will be a perfect office/guest room/playroom. The kitchen is kind of old and probably the “least pretty” room of the house, but the rest of the house more than makes up for it. Oh! And it has a sweet little courtyard that you walk through to get to the front door with a cool outdoor fireplace. Emma and I are already making our list of what plants we are going to try to grow outside. I just love it and didn’t realize how much I missed having a “house” of our own with nobody below or next to us. Ahhh….I am praying for some nice, sleep-filled nights in our future.

We move in the first week in April, and now I have a ton of stuff to prepare and get ready. As much as I hate the chaos of moving, I love the purging that goes along with it. And now that we have not used stuff for the past 9 months or so, it will be even easier to get rid of that which we couldn’t “live without” before.  And then proceed to fill up all the new space with new junk. Isn’t that how it goes?

The End of Laundry As I Know It…

Well, it isn’t the end…there never seems to be an end to laundry.

I remember vividly when I was pregnant with A. and getting close to my due date and I pulled out a tub (actually there were more like 3 or 4) of Emma’s baby clothes that I had kept in hopes of being able to use them again some day. I opened the lid and the smell of Dreft wafting up was enough to make me have a bit of a hormonal incident. Just that Dreft smell was enough to set me off. I sat and cried huge tears into the tiny little onesies, as I held them and just breathed the sweet smell of Emma’s babyness.

At that time I had been washing Em’s clothes with ours mostly and using my old standby, Tide. But after A. came along I started washing the girls clothes together, mostly because it was just easier, but also because if one girl’s clothes smelled so good with the Dreft, then two girls…well, that would be baby-smell heaven, right?

As a little sidenote, I think laundry is one of my least favorite household chores. (My absolute least favorite is unloading the dishwasher as the girls I lived with in London will attest! And it unfortunately is the one thing I do nearly every single day.) But I LOVE folding the girls’ laundry! All sweet smelling and warm from the dryer. Plus an added bonus – it is all tiny stuff so you end up with piles of clean laundry, and it looks like you did loads and loads – but it doesn’t seem to take nearly as long to fold.

But back to the real story here…

A. is really, I mean really, hard on her clothes. The Dreft just isn’t cutting it anymore. I soak, I bleach, I Zout (which is normally a miracle product) and none of it is really working here. I fear poor little Gabella Ella is not going to get many hand-me-downs from here on out…there just won’t be much left to them when A. is done with them.

And all of this isn’t even the real story…(I do know it isn’t very interesting reading about my minor obsession with Dreft or how incredibly messy my child is.)

The real point here is, I realized that I have about two more loads worth of Dreft left and then it is time to switch over…and I feel incredibly sad.

I feel a weird sort of sadness that I won’t be using baby detergent anymore. Isn’t that the strangest thing you’ve ever heard? (It may be the strangest thing I’ve ever written.) I guess it is just affecting me like this because I know they are growing up. Each week – each DAY, I see them getting a little bit bigger, acting a little bit older, and I guess this crazy little “switching of the detergents” is like a milestone, of some sorts.

I think I finally understand why some moms are so happy to do their kids’ laundry when they bring home piles of it from college, or after being away. It is one of those little things that let us pretend our big kids are still our babies.